Eeny, meeny, miny, moe…the time has come to pick your bridesmaids. How exciting- your first big wedding decision that lets you know this thing is really happening! On the other hand, no task has seemed so daunting or reminiscent of the dreaded MySpace top eight…. Are you going to pick the girl you’ve known since kindergarten? Your first college roommate? A close colleague? Who’s going to be the lucky winner? Or, you might be thinking that this is a no brainer and the least of your wedding concerns, but picking your wedding day entourage shouldn’t be a decision taken lightly. There is so much more to the wedding day equation then just having your besties by your side. Your bridesmaids need to be ready to perform the many brutal (and endless) bridal duties with the right attitude. So when picking your girls you must honestly ask yourself “is she bridesmaid material?” Understand that this one decision can make or break your special day. A bad bridesmaid is like a bad apple- she can leave a bitter taste in your mouth. Be sure to keep her personality type in mind. If she’s the type that’s a better complainer then listener, opinionated to the point of annoying or always whining about her financial struggles, you might want to think twice before asking her to accompany you. Why? Because instead of having a friend to share this special day with, you’ll wind-up with a horrible headache, unnecessary stress and maybe a failed friendship. This article was featured on Occasions. Here are some questions to ask before choosing a bridesmaid:
Is she supportive? You will have a lot of people sharing their opinions on what is right and wrong in a wedding. It’s important to have a supportive friend who will remind you of your wishes. You might have an idea that goes against a traditional wedding custom and your girls should be behind you cheering you on.
Is she a great listener? There will be many times in the wedding planning process where you will be stressed to the max and will need someone to vent to. You want a friend who will listen and give you solutions and options.
Is she financially stable? You are spending some serious cash on this one day and the last thing you need is hearing the woes from a girlfriend who can’t afford to pay for the dress or shoes you picked out. Money is always an icky subject to talk about and you’ll find yourself extremely frustrated if she can’t cover her costs.
Is she reliable? You want to have no doubts that this person can be counted on and that she will gladly rush to your side for any little thing that needs to be done.
So, do you have the right girls in mind? Find out by taking the “Is She Bridesmaid Material” assessment. Not all girlfriends make good bridesmaids and you very well might hurt someone’s feeling by not asking them to take part. Don’t give into the guilt. Instead give them a job like passing out the ceremony fans or taking gifts. Remember that the day is about you- not them and their drama. However, this does not give you carte blanche to go bridezilla. You’re looking for a support system that will be reciprocated when it’s their turn to walk down the aisle. This will be one of the most exciting times in your life and it’s important to have good supportive friends to share it with.