Throughout my time as a wedding planner this topic has come up a lot when working with different brides. So let’s think about when you are first planning your wedding, you are excited thinking about the big details, and booking a wedding coordinator is not one of the main things you book first according to some brides. Most times, if you know someone who is organized, or someone that loves weddings they seem to be a good fit. However, most of the time it’s your beautiful mother who can’t wait for your big day, that is considered to coordinate your wedding. It seems like a great idea at the time. You have your mother who is organized, full of ideas, and knows how to keep it together, but on the other hand she does not have the experience or time to effectively coordinate your wedding, like a wedding coordinator would. So, as your Williamsburg wedding planner, I am here to answer the big question, Should The Mother of the Bride be the wedding coordinator?
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Should a Mother of the Bride be the Wedding Coordinator?
When I got married I made the decision to have my mom coordinate different parts of my big day. I look back, and although she did a great job it was more stressful than helpful. When you envision your big day, you envision your mom helping you with every simple detail that will allow you to be as relaxed as possible. For example, helping you with your dress, sharing sweet words, or just giving you that last hug before you embark on a new journey. If your mother is your wedding coordinator, unfortunately she won’t be able to share those sweet moments with you. A wedding coordinator’s job is to make sure your day is worry, and stress free but also to allow the mother on both sides, not just the mother of the bride, to enjoy every special moment with you. Also, to make sure everything goes as smooth as possible,so this is one thought to keep in mind when considering your mom to coordinate.
Also, with so many different details to keep in place, your mother most likely won’t be able to enjoy moments of your wedding that you would like her to. For example, family portraits are very important to any bride. If your mother is busy talking with vendors or trying to set up certain items she won’t be able to enjoy those special portraits. If you are considering having your mother coordinate your wedding, take a long hard look at what needs to get done, and take into consideration everything it entails. You want your mother to enjoy your wedding day, not stress and work, so please hire a true wedding coordinator for your big day, and let your beautiful mother enjoy!